Packet loss between 2 ASN - what to do?

Hello Networking,

This is kinda home question - but also a good discussion about what there can be done?

So i'm living in the small Denmark, and have a connection at home from my work ( Working at an ISP ). We have a transit peer probably the biggest ISP in Denmark. Most of our traffic is going out towards this ISP. This includes traffic going towards France.

So what i have figured out is that when my traffic hits AMSIX and enters OVH's ASN i get packet loss in the evening.

Right now, i have started using a VPN towards Poland because then my traffic is not hitting this saturated link in AMSIX and that means i have no lags going to the France server.

I spoke with a former colleague working at the big danish ISP, and he actually said that they know about a problem - but this has turned into politics. Meaning nobody wants to pay for this connection that these 2 ISP's have together.

So what should or could i even do here :/?